Preparing food for oneself in an act of self-care that is constantly shifting like the natural flow of life. Most days I am happy to be in the kitchen chopping, stirring and cooking up a meal to nourish my family and myself and it flows easily and joyfully. These are the days when everyone is happy to gather together at the table, put aside the stresses of the day and focus on sharing a delicious meal. Whatever is being served is happily consumed by the diners; young and old alike and the conversation is relaxed.
On other days when I am feeling stressed and agitated with petty concerns or the actions of those around me self care becomes difficult and the practice of lovingly preparing a meal is a challenge. Little Susie doesn’t like broccoli, (and you’re gearing up for the please eat your vegetables conversation), the siblings have been fighting lately, everyone is arriving home at different times and eating late is not working for you. These are the times when it is easy to let negativity zap our energy and engage in habits that don’t serve our best self. Take a pause and try a few simple self care practices.
Pour yourself a drink while you are cooking, a large drink of filtered fresh WATER. Pour it into a beautiful glass, perhaps with a slice or two of fresh lemon or orange wedges and sip it slowly- feel your body being hydrated and nourished from within. Dehydration can leave you feeling agitated, cranky, tired and on edge. Save the glass of wine for later.
Keep the meal simple, don’t over extend yourself by trying to please everyone and don’t be apologetic. Practice a simple breathing exercise while you are in the kitchen preparing the meal to keep you focused and grounded. When we become anxious breathing naturally speeds up, slowing down your breathing by bringing your attention to it is a simple way to kick in the bodies relaxation response. A breathing practice or meditation in motion quiets the mind, turns our thoughts inward and helps to clear out negative energy.
Close your mouth and gently begin to breath in and out through your nose. Notice your breath becoming easier and more relaxed with each breath, do not force it, just be aware of it. Visualize a soft, gentle and soothing flow of energy. If it is helpful use a word to focus on during your inhale and exhale; love, peace or whatever feels right to you. I often focus on my breath and use these techniques during stressful times. Meditation in motion working with the breath is a powerful ally.
Make an effort to make the meal visually beautiful. Forgo the disposable plates and choose a few pretty pieces of china, place a tablecloth or place mats on the table and light a candle or add a pretty plant as a visual focal point. When we satisfy all of our senses the meal becomes more enjoyable, it is easier to relax, feel satisfied, and improves digestion. People tend to overeat less often when the food is visually beautiful.
Appreciate yourself for taking the extra steps to focus on your needs and notice how you can shift your experience to a more positive outcome.